What Happened?

What in the name that is all that is good and holy went wrong today? I merely texted Sabrina (as a courteousy) that I wanted to wear a loose head scarf since it's Ramadan, and she went balistic. Even though I relented and said I wouldn't wear it when I took the girls to school, she decided to take them herself. Then the girls had a problem and Clint had to go to school to straighten it out. Sabrina DEMANDED that I get an appointment for us with John. So I did, and got one for me next Monday. She claims that she is protecting her daughters; from what, I don't know. She sees me as fickle and too changeable. 

I was so upset and needed to talk to someone so I called Jimmie. And he tell me vent. I was so very thankful. He agrees she is a piece of work. I think she is majorly over-reacting. I don't know what her real problem is, but she talks about me as if I am a moron.  She claims she tries so hard to accept me, but she is totally disrespectful and just plain bitchy, nasty, demanding, and stubborn. So she rejected my offer of help today, but then complained about I was going to make her lose her job. She claims I try to lay a guilt trip on her, but she's the one who always is upset and may feel guilty. I do nothing to "guilt" her into anything.

I feel terrible, because I was really trying to be a kinder person. But of course she called me on the way home from work and was all worked up. Then she hung up on me. I called her twice and asked for her to call me so we could talk rationally. She says i "sprung" the scarf on her with no warning this morning, but I did explain my rationale, and then I also said I would abide by her wishes. But she chose to be a "victim." I have been so upset that I couldn't even go out to the masjid tonight. 


I want to take the girls shopping, but she said, "Don't wear a scarf." Who is she to demand what I can and cannot wear? I have half a mind to tell her to find someone else to watch her animals next week. She absolutely does not appreciate nor respect me. And I feel like I am enabling her behavior. She even implied a threat to not let me see the girls. 


What is her problem? Why is she such a demanding, "my way or the highway" bitch? She says she is stressed and at the end of her rope. I don't interfere in her life. My life revolves around taking her kids to stuff. I'm at the end of my rope. I have prayed and given it to God. I have no idea what to do. Should I tell her to make other arrangements for next week? I truly want to, but that would be mean. I just don't know what to do.